When I write these posts they are usually based on what I need to hear in the moment. This past week I’ve been trying to listen to what I need, and finally I heard it on Monday after a nice little run-in with a migraine. The message was finally clear, I needed a break from constantly interacting with the human race.
There used to be a time when you could go days without a soul knowing where you were. For some I’m sure that sounds scary, but for the rest of us, we might feel a little nostalgic about that. Imagine not having to answer texts, respond to comments or posts, or answer calls when someone ELSE was ready. We were given and allowed time to respond to things. If you wrote a letter, you’d have to wait for a response, and there was no guarantee how long that would take. We learned the art of patience.
Well this week I’m starting to acknowledge that cell phones and everything associated with them: texting, social media, etc are taking it’s toll on me. I might be doing fine or most likely recovering from life and get a text that suddenly becomes the focus of my day. I could’ve literally been having a restorative moment, and in a flash it’s gone. To be fair, that is something I also have to work on (and am working on). The art of not letting things linger in my brain longer than is necessary is a hard one for me. (Highly recommend the workbook Mind Over Mood by the way, and oldie but goody.) But there’s also something to be said about protecting your peace and your time.
I hear parents talk about how much screen time they allow their kids. But I do wonder, are we not parenting ourselves? If we were to calculate how much screen time we occupy in a day, my guess is we’d be a tad embarrassed. I know I would.
So what’s the solution? In my case I want to consciously limit my accessibility when my body and mind are telling me it’s “recharge” time. This means I have to pay better attention to how I feel, and then honor how I feel without judging it or wishing I had more capacity. Because there are plenty of folks who do not get as drained from this as I do. That’s great! That’s them though. One of my favorite quotes that I sometimes have to repeat to myself like a mantra is “Comparison is the thief of joy.” This also means that I will have moments where I will need to redirect myself when I realize I haven’t been honoring my commitment to recovery and recuperation. It’s a journey, people.
So while this may not be your need this week, I encourage you to notice and honor where you could allow your mind a little more peace this week.
Take care of YOU.